When a man can only give a woman one thing, both agree to it and there is zero issues or questions, right? When emotions get involved is when it gets complicated. But when the initial discussion of what someone can only give from the very beginning causes problems.
When you realize that your person who you lean on for only certain things starts to change their personality, that they remove themselves even more, become colder, distant it can cause problems, but for whom?
As the woman in this “relationship” because when you think about it you are in a unique intimate relationship with your person because sex is very emotional, very much a sacrifice in so many ways if you really sit back and think about it, but what do you do when you start to feel like you want more from a relationship? What do you do when you realize that you can sometimes take it or leave it (sex) with your person no matter what? I mean my person is AMAZING in bed, but there are a few things I’ve noticed that has changed in him, but at the same time I know I’ve changed as well.
I know what a booty-call relationship is and what it means and I am fully aware of the rules, I mean I was told them to me by my father when I started having sex at 19 years old, because my father knew what was going, and when it happened. Having those conversations with my parents about sex, my safety, and more was just a natural part of my upbringing, there was nothing that was seen as taboo. I remember my father reminding me to make sure I had an overnight bag in my car just in case, make sure I leave “Thank You” notes to the person even if it was bad, but never leave my number, especially if the sex was bad. Please keep in mind my parents were hippies and products of the 60’s, LOL!
What do you do when your person starts to get colder to you? How do you handle it? Do you handle it? Do you walk away? I know deep in my heart I’m wanting a relationship with someone because I sat down with someone who read my cards, and she told me that my person is obviously temporary, he will go back to what he is used to, plus he is in no mood to commit to a Pisces who doesn’t have her life together. I had to sit back and think about that because she said he will realize it soon and I’ll be left in the dark. It hit my heart hard with that one, but at the same time it was something I expected to hear. She told me that since I’m a Pisces, I want and need love, I mean devoted love. Not the kind of love that will be from a guy who showers me with money because it’s obvious that does nothing for me, but the love that is emotionally supportive because I want to do the same thing for him.
I know my situation is temporary, it was never meant to last. There is no way he would want to be committed to me the way I’d be committed to him. She did tell me that I may have to deal with being single for the rest of my life because there is no one out there who will give me the type of love I deserve. I wanted to cry. She informed me that since I sometimes live in the clouds, but am a realistic Pisces, IF I ever meet the right guy he will be a different sign. I sometimes am not sure what to think when someone says this to me.
Why do things change when you start as a relationship, but change to being f* buddies, and stay just that. Why do things get complicated? Yet, you treat them as what they wanted to be and attitude comes around?
Let me know.
Thoughts and Views from Kansas 🌻 