FWB = Friends with Benefits

So this saying has been going through my head for a while. It’s something I never thought I’d ever see myself doing ever again….until recently.

When you re-evaluate your past whatever it was, you realize that it wasn’t in anyway an actual relationship of where we would go out on dates, no phone calls, text messages, checking up on me. I always felt like I was intruding on his life no matter what it was.

I sometimes wonder do people ever get sick of that lifestyle? When does that part of the brain wake up and tell them, “You know you’re physically attracted to this person, but why are you not emotionally, mentally or spiritually attracted to them as well?” What is it about this person that stops them dead in their tracks to even consider developing feelings or an actual relationship with the person they are willing to sleep with, but not anything else.

I know I got all of that out of my system back in my 20’s, I mean all of my 20’s. I wasn’t ready for a committed relationship at the time, I didn’t know who I was so naturally it made sense for me to do what I wanted whenever I wanted.

However men in their 40’s and 50’s its like a whole new level of life when they are single, they want to play the field because they wanted to settle down as soon as possible to have a family. I can see now how this is all so different from women in their 20’s to men in their 40’s. The level of requirements are gone, done, they have done their duties of procreation and more, yet what neither side takes into account is if love fails or dies off.

I guess men who want to experience all they can go back to being a man whore and women who want to settle into a grown up relationship that is defined by how they make it, is basically SOL (sh*t out of luck) because we all end up on different paths as we get older.

Is it possible for a “man-whore” to calm down? To realize that the person that has been with them through so much is in fact the right one for them? If not, maybe have the balls to tell them it’s time to cut all ties, and move on.

Tell me what you think.