I often wonder what myself worth is as a person more so than what it is in a relationship. Do you do that? Are you someone who looks at another person’s self worth and grades them on a scale of 0-100?
The reason I ask this question is because I was recently reminded that people really do value money more than having a human connection. I grew up with two totally different sides of what a family could really be. I mean completely different. One side had money, the other side poor farmers who valued everything down to the penny. My life was a combination of the two. I knew if I truly wanted something I just had to go to my grandparents, but I also knew I needed to work for something that would be better for me in the end.
I’ve gone through so much crap in my life, that I realize that I am finally back where I belong, and that is in Hospitality. I truly enjoy feeling like I am busy, doing something worth wild, talking to people, making them smile, and laugh, heck even trying to solve their issues while helping pick out a restaurant for the night. It is who I am, sucks that it took a long time for me to figure that out. Now I can say that I am truly happy, the next step for me is waiting for the GM to get his feet under him so I can get my Sales role back! I know I will be better off doing that.
Now, back to my original discussion. Do you place a dollar amount value on your relationships? I don’t because I feel like by doing that you miss out on being with someone who can really open your eyes and mind to new things. I can’t stand how people place money before love and companionship because before you realize it you will be sleeping alone, and that toothbrush will be the only one you see. I am the kind of person who values someone, the connection mentally, physically, emotionally, and even sexually. It is important for all of that to work. I don’t think I am wrong, but I am sure someone will tell me.
The way I see it is like this…If you are looking for a “Sugar Daddy” or “Sugar Momma” you have better look a certain way, present yourself in a certain way, and also make sure you can hold your own next to them. Those people are looking for someone who is younger, established, doesn’t want kids, but maybe do later on. It all depends on the person. However, it gets tricky because some who are just “testing” the waters will get with you, then bounce when you don’t produce what they want. I’ve seen it happen, not to me because I refuse to get mixed up in that mess, but I have seen it happen. Allow me to explain…..
I know this woman, she is three years older than I am, lives in Texas. She works for a very wealthy doctor, he is single, good looking, but finds this woman completely attractive. The become friends, he is still interested in her, but he soon realizes that there is something missing with her. Well this ladies friend comes into town to visit her, as soon as this Doctor meets the friend he instantly knows what is missing, and why they have never progressed past the friendship zone. The woman is missing the sexual desire that her friend posses. Because of that one thing missing this wealthy guy passes on the woman, tries to make a play with the friend, but ends up blowing it all.
So the moral of that story (beyond true!) is if you are missing something the other person will see that and try to go after something else. Like, he knew he could find a woman who was somewhat “wife” material, but in the end he also wanted the woman who was adventurous in the bedroom on top of being “wife” material. When it comes to a woman looking for a toy, that is exactly what she will find, a temporary toy who will make her feel great for a moment, but in the end she will walk away to find a new toy. It is inevitable. Understand that you too are completely replaceable once you have served your purpose.
My final thought on this is be with someone who makes you laugh, either at them or with them. Can rev up your motor sexually, and be adventurous. Not to mention someone you can hold a solid conversation with, money comes and goes, but it is up to the two of you how you handle it all. Think about it!