I am asking this question because I spoke with my sister after work about what it’s like to date a guy who is older than I am. She normally never asks me this because after her last failed relationship she decided she was going to take a break.
I asked her, “Why?”; she said, “Well I have been out on a few dates with this guy who is 50 years old!” I get excited for her because my sister is 36 about to be 37, been through a messed up divorce, a failed engagement, and most recently a man who couldn’t keep his junk in his pants and his lies straight! I told her, “Oh my gosh, sis!!! YES!!!! Go for it, get to know him. He will never rush you into anything, or make you feel like you are less than he is.” She asked me if it was like that with my last ex, I replied, “Well, he and I are not the best example of starting a relationship, neither of us set any rules or boundaries showing what we actually expect out of a relationship. We had (and still do) a lot of passion.” She understood where I was coming from.
We both decided that we can’t fool around with guys our age anymore, especially now that we know what it is like to have a man who pays attention to the littlest things, doesn’t make us feel like we are nothing to them. They don’t need constant affirmation of who they are, what they do, and how they can take care of us.
Relationships between a “younger” person to an “older” person is different, each one is looking for something. I’ve realized that I don’t think I could ever be with someone my own age ever again, they all seem so shady, shallow, and wanting a supermodel, not a real woman. Yet, the older guy is looking for a real woman, because some women look at them with dollar signs in their eyes, when in fact they aren’t even like that.
My ex ruined it for me when it comes to dating men of a certain age. He’s gotta be older than me, 10-15 years older than me.
Is that wrong for me to set an age limit? Will you set an age limit for yourself or is there more you are needing, wanting, and expecting? I want someone who knows how I drink my coffee, who knows how to cook, isn’t afraid to text me funny or sexy things. He will know that all I need from him is his arms around me to make me feel better about my life.
What about you?