I was talking to one of my co-workers the other day, and he informed me that he broke up with his girlfriend. It caught me off guard because he was so deeply in love with her, not sure if she was in love with him either, but when we got to the dirt of the conversation he said, “I wanted more of her, but she didn’t, so I cut her loose.” I believe my mouth dropped. Another guy in the office said, “Jennifer doesn’t know what that is like.” we all laughed because its true.
When you know a relationship is fully over, you are the one who cut the strings on it. Did you just feel it when it started going south? I know I did when the last few relationships ended for real, buuuuuuuttt…..sometimes people just can not quit being together because they make each other laugh, have fun, and the sex is amazing. Is that wrong?
I’m starting to realize the stories women used to tell me, “Oh my gosh, we broke up, got back together, broke up again, and got back together. The craziest roller coaster relationship of my life, but also the best.” I used to think they were crazy, but I now understand.
This guy at work comes in, doesn’t complain, is wanting to get back out there and start dating again, but he is the kind of guy who will never look at a plus-size model as beautiful, he is a gym rat, who eats so much food per day because he’s at the gym first thing in the morning. He is the kind of man that want’s a woman who is a single digit size, and blond (no offense), but he cracks me up. I tell him, “You need to give every woman a chance, maybe someone who is a bit bigger is your perfect match.” he shakes his head and says, “Nope, no fat girls.” then walks away.
He isn’t shallow as a friend, but as a man, that is a different story. I see him moving further and further away from the relationship. His healing process is totally different. I know my process has me falling apart, not feeling loved, and unwanted. I guess that explains why two people can’t ever quit each other.
I know break ups stick, I think it just depends on the couple. What do you think?