Real Life · Relationships

Being Real

Do you think being real with yourself, accepting yourself, who you are and what you are all about scare men off? They are supposed to be strong, reliable, and more, yet when a woman shows a crack in their armor they go running for the hills. Why is that?

Do we do that as women? When a man shows his vulnerable side, do you run away? I’d like to say, “No.” because that shows me that he is not perfect either. The show, or the mask has finally fallen off. Now it is time to get real.

Why do we lie to each other? I know I’ve been honest about having mental or emotional issues. I’ve never once denied that I am emotionally needy, but mentally up and down. Is it shameful for a woman to admit that? What about men, will you see them differently? Will you think you have nothing to talk about? What if two broken people can help each other heal. Ever think about this, really focus on how to help yourself with being honest with who you are and what you are all about.

Does that make you less attractive to someone if you show them your cracks? Will that make them second guess having a relationship with you. I often wonder if that is true, because isn’t being in a relationship with someone all about being honest? Why wouldn’t you want to be honest with someone who you are intimate with. I mean at some point that person will see your cracks, why not just get it out of the way from the start and see how they handle it from there, what is wrong with that?

I sometimes think my mental issues, and the emotional beatings I’ve given myself have been the downfall of my relationships. Plus the lies do not help, but it is one of those things that when you finally meet the right person, but wrong time, you want to be honest with them about things and yourself. Does that make me look like less of a person?

What is your Real? What is honest to you?