As a woman, I often think it is okay to be submissive sexually to the man in my life. I know I’m single, but when I’m in a relationship I am more than okay to give up that portion of power to a man who wants it.
That does not mean that I am willing to give up my entire freedom just to make him happy, or to please him, but what I am willing to do is give up my entire body so that he can control it to please me sexually. Does that make me less of a woman? Less of someone who works hard, has bad days or good days? I don’t think so.
The way I look at it is, if a man is strong enough to put up with my butt on a daily basis, he is strong enough to make decisions about things and stick to them, communicate them with me, and I am able to still be me, hang out with my friends, live my life the way I want then to me sex is the one area he can control. I don’t see it as being a sex slave to him either, it is a complete example of trusting your partner on so many levels, your body, mind, heart and soul combined together can made any sexual experience better than before.
This conversation comes up when I talk to women, especially about holding onto our power as women. I am all for equality, I’d love to make equal pay for what my male counterpart does. I’d love to know that if I’m walking down the street, I am not hearing some idiot whistling at me, or some guy trying to catch my attention (not that it happens a lot, but it does happen). I hear from other women how they want a man to take control of the relationship and of their lives together, but there is no clear definition of how they want that to work out.
To the ladies that follow my page, I ask you this, Do you see a males dominance in a relationship as a sign of inequality as a couple? Do you want your man to have more authority in the bedroom only? Keep the rest of everything on your shoulders.
If the day comes and I am lucky to be with the right man, he better be willing to communicate things on a daily basis about everything! From work, home, finances, to pets or kids (if he has them, not me), whatever it is all is open for discussion, but for me, I am willing to let him own the bedroom, especially sex. I love when the man is an alpha male completely. I say that because I want a man who will own me in the bedroom, but be proud of me outside because he considers me his equal.
I know that comes off as very Fifty Shades of Grey, but in reality who doesn’t want a man who knows who he is, knows what he’s all about, and can make you scream louder than you ever have! It is a luxury and a complete wonder when it happens, going horse the next morning is kind of funny.
Pretty sure that some of you will read this and think, “What the heck is she smoking?” honestly, nothing it was just a question I was asking myself, talking to a few people online about it and wondered does it make you less of a woman if you want to be controlled in the bedroom? We control our lives every single day, no matter what we are doing, work, finances, gym, friends, co-workers, events, PTA, kids, cooking, laundry. The list can go on and on, I mean it just never ends! Now, if you could just let go of one thing, what would it be? For me it would be sexually, I’d rather have a grip on my life and finances than anything else. I’d be happy to let a man decide things that work out for the best, it helps our relationship stay strong, and be stronger.
Now, if you have issues with sex or letting go of that type of power then set some boundaries, nothing wrong with that. You have to know what your limits are, and be honest with your partner. Don’t ever force yourself into something that you will never be comfortable with.
There is a flip side to this topic, if a man wants to be dominated in the bedroom would you do that for him? This is where it starts to become an equal topic of conversation. If you are with a man who rules everything in your relationship life, but wants to be ruled in the bedroom are you willing to step up to the plate to make it happen? It is a give and take of pleasure for the both of you. I want everyone to really think about it, because we ask for a lot of roles to be reversed in so many ways, yet we can’t think about it sexually.
I understand that this is going to be hard subject to talk about with everything going on right now in today’s current world climate, but if you can take a moment to get out of your head and escape the world we live in right now, would you consider both sides?
I’d really love to know.