Relationships

Be nice

In life the goal is to always be nice to people no matter who or what they are. I say this because there are times when we say goodbye to good people it is for a reason. Your hope is that they will be the same to you.

Sometimes when relationships end, they end not because they are toxic (some can be), but they end because its just time.

The goal of every relationship between two people is to make sure that it ends for the right reasons. Some just throw out that, “It’s me not you.” kind of thing, it could also be that they are just a horrible person and the whole thing needs to end. Now, there are some types of relationships that are just so special that require to end based on situations, or individual issues.

No matter how a relationship ends, even the good ones, the best thing to do is to be kind to the person. Now, that does not mean that they need to stay in your life for any reason, but if they were important to you at all (again base this decision on your past relationship, not mine) then you want to be nice to them no matter what. It was the best thing you’ve ever had while it lasted.

My goal no matter how crappy my life is, has been, or will be, is to always be as possibly kind to others as I can. I know I am pleased to say that I will never see ex number 1, or ex number 2, but as for ex number 3, who knows when I will ever see him. I’m so busy working my part time job, trying to find a full time job, and hoping to go back to school in January that by then he may have already moved on with someone else.

I don’t ever want to be the snob about him, it will never happen. Despite what he thinks of me, or how he sees me, I will never say one bad thing about him, or even see him in a bad light. There is no reason for any of that because he isn’t a bad person. He’s a good man, with an amazing heart, kind soul, and will one day meet the right woman, and they will both live happily ever after. When that day comes I will be happy for him. Knowing that it doesn’t hurt me anymore to see him happy. It’s the most adult thing I can do.

Knowing that enough time has gone by since the last time you seen each other, God really does heal all kinds of wounds. Remember happy relationships linger in the heart, when bad relationships linger in the mind. You remember what not to do quicker than appreciating what you should do and be happy about it. The end goal for anyone, especially if you want to be an adult about things no matter how much it hurts, is to appreciate the last person you were with, especially if they made a big impression on you. Appreciate the little things, to all the large things that happened to help you open up, and even think that for a moment you were totally happy. Even if the relationship was a bad one, remember that too. It will help you process what needs to change for the next one.

I’ve decided that I’m not going to put myself through any of that anymore. I’m done. I’m focused on other things in my life that need to be fixed. I’m so ready for all this to change, and to honestly give myself a real chance to make my life a better one than before. I now know what path I want to be on. It will help me better understand where I need to be and where I can be useful. I want a chance to live a full life, that doesn’t mean the same thing for everyone. Find your path, stick to it. If you have a dream, make it happen. I’m definitely taking my own advice on so many levels.

The thing is, always be nice no matter who it is. It will eventually catch up to them, be it in a good way, or a bad way. Life has the ability to do that. Remember to never wish harm on anyone because it will come back to you ten times worse. Just distance yourself from a lot of stuff, and move on.

Those are my words of advice. Where do you get yours?